How to define extramarital affair? Generally speaking, it refers to
a person who is married has a relationship with someone else. No matter that
relationship is emotional or sexual. For me, I cannot accept extramarital
affairs. Although nowadays affairs are accepted by people who believe in some advantages of this behavior, I still don’t
think it works.
Once you have an affair, it means you lie, betray, and fail to keep
your promise to your partner. As far as I am concerned, if someone wants to
start a new relationship, he or she must get divorced immediately. I cannot
tolerate the betrayal or compromise to any excuse, especially for the
excitement.
There are a few examples indicating that after finding out his/
her spouse has an affair, instead of leading to a marriage and family crisis, their relationship becomes better than before . However, happy ending seldom
exists. The fact is that most of the couples are forced to face lots of serious
household problems after affairs are exposed.
There are some reasons below why extramarital affairs should not be
accepted. Needless to say, affairs violate social morals, and sometimes against
the laws. We don’t have to doubt that the person who has an affair will be
condemned harshly by most people. Further, marital infidelity shows that you
don’t respect your partner, marriage and the vows you took before. As soon as
your partner finds you cheat, it is inevitable that the divorce problem will appear.
Even if you choose to forgive him/her, both of you still have a hang-up between
each other, and the sense of trust might not be recovered forever. What’s more,
it probably will be mentioned all the time in every conflict, which would make your
marriage worse. Besides, another significant damage
is that children suffer as well. They are the most innocent victims, and can be
easily hurt if they live under a poor marriage or dysfunctional family. That is
the reason why many couples choose to bear the terrible situation rather than
getting divorced. And does anybody think of the other woman or man? He/ She might
also be harmed because he/ she has no idea that person is married.
A married person has responsibility
and obligation to take care of his/her family. If everyone does not intend to take
marriage as a serious thing, it would become a meaningless existence. Therefore,
the behavior of having an affair should never be accepted and forgiven.
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