In marriage, love is not the only thing,
but responsibility plays a significant role. Many people use love as an
explanation to defend themselves when they have an affair, which makes
extramarital affair becomes a sanctuary for true love. However, is it
reasonable to betray your spouse because of love? Furthermore, when the crime
of adultery is repealed, is there any other method for the cheated people to
remember their family obligation?
According to a reporter called Hsi
Hsia, “If you don’t love your spouse anymore, please be brave to get divorce,
and then you can pursue the relationship without the restriction of marriage.”
Some people do not have the courage to get divorce even if they think their
marriages are dull. They want to maintain the marriage but still cannot give up
those outside lovers. From Hsi Hsia’s viewpoint, it is alright for you to
have sexual liberty if you were not married. She agrees that nobody have the
right to interfere under unmarried situation. However, she opposes sexual
liberty in marriage, because it’s unfair to your family and spouse. Marriage
and family means responsibility. She wrote that “do not take repealing adultery
as an excuse to satisfy your own sexual desire.” It’s an extremely
irresponsible behavior.
If the crime of adultery was abolished,
people might think having an affair is legitimate. They will ignore and try to escape
the responsibility they should take. Moreover, Affair that is short of
self-examination might cause more domestic violence and will accelerate the
breakdown of family. The reason why European countries and the USA stand for
abolishing the crime of adultery is that their laws have well protection for
women from different aspects, but in Taiwan, we don’t. Our Civil Law is not
perfect enough to compensate the abandoned partner. “It’s better to revise Civil
Law from the aspects of child custody or couple property before we argue this
issue (Shu Ying Huang, 2002).” What’s more, different countries have different
cultures, is it really appropriate to follow others’ step without considering
our cultural background? “In the present Taiwanese society, law may not be
effective, but if the law does not exist (the crime of adultery), the situation
will be worse (Shu Ying Huang, 2002).” Therefore, we should not abolish this
law, which keep the minimum ethical standard in the society.
In conclusion, both legal sanctions and
ethical restriction are indispensable methods to prevent the widespread
affairs. As soon as you get married, you don’t have the right to reject
fulfilling family obligation. And considering our cultural background, it’s not
proper to repeal the crime of adultery before the Civil Law is revised.
Source:
H. Hsia (January, 2002). Liberating
the sexual desire, but how about the responsibility? China Times.
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S. Y. Huang (January, 2002). Should
women worry about the abolishing crime of adultery?
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