How to define extramarital affair? Generally speaking, it refers to
a person who is married has a relationship with someone else. No matter that
relationship is emotional or sexual. For me, I cannot accept extramarital
affairs. Although nowadays affairs are accepted by people who believe in some advantages of this behavior, I still don’t
think it works.
Once you have an affair, it means you lie, betray, and fail to keep
your promise to your partner. As far as I am concerned, if someone wants to
start a new relationship, he or she must get divorced immediately. I cannot
tolerate the betrayal or compromise to any excuse, especially for the
excitement.
There are a few examples indicating that after finding out his/
her spouse has an affair, instead of leading to a marriage and family crisis, their relationship becomes better than before . However, happy ending seldom
exists. The fact is that most of the couples are forced to face lots of serious
household problems after affairs are exposed.
There are some reasons below why extramarital affairs should not be
accepted. Needless to say, affairs violate social morals, and sometimes against
the laws. We don’t have to doubt that the person who has an affair will be
condemned harshly by most people. Further, marital infidelity shows that you
don’t respect your partner, marriage and the vows you took before. As soon as
your partner finds you cheat, it is inevitable that the divorce problem will appear.
Even if you choose to forgive him/her, both of you still have a hang-up between
each other, and the sense of trust might not be recovered forever. What’s more,
it probably will be mentioned all the time in every conflict, which would make your
marriage worse. Besides, another significant damage
is that children suffer as well. They are the most innocent victims, and can be
easily hurt if they live under a poor marriage or dysfunctional family. That is
the reason why many couples choose to bear the terrible situation rather than
getting divorced. And does anybody think of the other woman or man? He/ She might
also be harmed because he/ she has no idea that person is married.
A married person has responsibility
and obligation to take care of his/her family. If everyone does not intend to take
marriage as a serious thing, it would become a meaningless existence. Therefore,
the behavior of having an affair should never be accepted and forgiven.
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I think your point is not clear here. "They are the most innocent victims, and can be easily hurt if they live under a poor marriage or dysfunctional family. That is the reason why many couples choose to bear the terrible situation rather than getting divorced."
回覆刪除It seems that the situation is only caused by extramarital marriage. So do you think that if their extramarital affairs happen, in order not to make children be the victims, they should not get divorced?
The point seems not close to your title and kind of vague.
I agree with you that children will suffer as well and it can be one of the reasons of not accepting extramarital affair . However,'' That is the reason why many couples choose to bear the terrible situation rather than getting divorced.'' drag your point far away. Because if the couple keep bearing the extramarital affair, that somehow means that the couple accept his or her extramarital affair to some degree.
回覆刪除In 4th paragraph "...which would make your marriage worsen." I think "make your marriage worse" would be better.
回覆刪除After reading your paper, I think once a couple find out they don't love each other, they should get a divorce immediately. Many marriages ending in divorce because there's no love anymore, and the affair is just a one last straw. However, most people don't usually admit there's a problem in their marriage. They pretend everything is fine until the affair comes along as an wake-up call to make them realize "it is not working." So maybe extramarital affair is not the real reason for an unhappy marriage.
There is a clear fault in the first paragraph. There should be one verb in a sentence, so "try" in line 4 should be replaced by "trying."
回覆刪除You said instead of keeping a marriage, people should get divorced when their marriage has problems. But there must be some reasons that couples cannot do so. For example, if they are celebrities, they are likely to choose keeping their marriage in order to hold the reputation. Taking more reasons into account can make your point complete and persuasive.
I thought "And does anybody think of the other woman or man?", in the 4th paragraph, can be pointed out who she or he is more clearly. When I first see this sentence, I don't know who they are instantly.
回覆刪除Thanks for your advice. I'll think another term to describe it. How about outside lover?
刪除Your words I think it is very clear and eloquent. They reassure my opinion against extramarital affairs. After all, it is the issue about faith, which is both physical and mental. If one in the spouse violate such deep trust, how can we still trust him or her on other affairs and remain his or hers family member?
回覆刪除Your word is very logical and persuasive. In paragraph 3, I think you can illustrate more about “not having a happy ending in the end”, and try to provide a chart or research data to prove your argument stronger.
回覆刪除Thanks for your comment. Maybe I will find some research data and put them in my annotation.
刪除i think your point is very clear, and you listed all the reasons that you don't support extramarital affairs to persuade us that it is unaccepted.
回覆刪除it'd be perfect if you add some real life examples; to help us understand exactly how harmful it is to have an extramarital affair.
Many people may choose to bear the extramarital affairs instead of getting divorced in order not to hurt the children. Maybe you can find some story about the child whose family has extramarital affairs. Do the kids really need a complete family after they know the betray between their parents?
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